What Makes You Happy?

I used to worry about my current situation for the future, but I realized how much important it is to focus on myself for once.


Suddenly, I felt like getting away alone somewhere far, or with someone I love. Listen to my old records of High School Musical tapes as I drive fast. Catch the waves of the sea, smell its brine, and spend hours sighting sea stars. Take pictures of the sunset. Start bonfire on an island. Lay with the sand under my feet and go star gazing. Sleep in the tent and play with the shadows of my hand.

But, all these things are way too far from reality. The truth is I’m stuck that sometimes I feel like I’m losing the drive to play my game.

Mid June, I am bombarded with stuffs to do, a sword to fight the new normal realm. I so wanted to start it in no time because it requires time and my full potential to get it done. There is my passion but I’m lacking the drive towards it. These feelings hit me and I realized it seems like I’m doing things because it’s necessary and I keep doing so because it’s what’s needed to keep going.

I’m dealt with situations like these asking myself, do I really want to do this, or I am just not ready? It feels like I’m stuck because I’m pushing a door that says pull perhaps.

I’ve been having twain realizations about this matter for a while now. It says this isn’t what my body want to do, it is somehow I am being forced to do such, so everyone can see that I’m on the right track and I’m doing the right thing. But my inner saboteur says, this is just a phase, maybe I need to rest and recharge to start again.

Well, in the first place I won’t be placed to where I am now if I really have no sense of likeness about what I do frankly. Maybe the negative feelings which bother me are just signs which tell me it’s not the right time to do these stuffs which make me mentally drained. Seems like I’m getting hard on myself to keep pushing so people can’t see negative or let say weak sides of me, so to speak, so I can avoid getting the invalidation about what I do. Causes me to carry the weight of their expectations.

I don’t know but, it’s just so sad to feel that most people, including me, do stuffs because we’re living up with other peoples standards.

If you can relate with this, I believe in the end, what’s left on you is the choice. Maybe the choice you’ve been choosing all along is what’s right and can make you feel unworried, but the question is are you happy? For once in your life, choose something that is not just right, but rightfully can make you happy instead.

I still have a choice, so whenever I feel like exploring places, get away with my car, listen to music, go to the beach, and meet people — I would definitely do. I think it’s brave from choosing my own happiness than to sacrifice it over the rolling waves that I know I can push away and decide to start and fight again anyway.

So this time, Breathe. Feel alive. Choose happiness — it is free after all.

54 thoughts on “What Makes You Happy?

  1. aisasami

    “So this time, Breathe. Feel alive. Choose happiness” This is beautiful! Even though there is so much going on in the world and around us, we just need to be here in the moment!

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  2. Cruzette Ayap Calzo

    This is my choice.. life satisfaction for me is living a simple life without too much burden from the ruled work and meeting targets.. i may not be financially satisfied but guess what? I met life satisfaction.. Ive been there ; money and position. Those cant make u happy after all. I may now worry over things, like how to live everyday but i am not stressed out.. i just pray to God to bless me and guide me. HIS plan is better than mine.

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  3. Agnes Dela Cruz

    I enjoyed reading the post. I suddenly reminded myself about self-happiness. Don’t forget to enrich yourself with your faith in everything.

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  4. Janella Herrera

    “For once in your life, choose something that is not just right, but rightfully can make you happy instead.” Definitely what I needed to hear right now. Been struggling lately since I had to end something I always wished to last.

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  5. jamozax

    I really love this. It narrates exactly what I’ve been going through. But we should always believe that the future is brighter.

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    1. blair villanueva

      If I chose to be included in other people’s standard, I will turn to just an ordinary person. And I don’t want to be ordinary. Life is too short just to be normal. I chose my own path and happiness.

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  6. Anne-Kathrin Walter

    Wonderful blog! I definitely chose for happiness and going against what was expected of me when I started my own business and pursued my passion. It is a tough way to go, but so worth it!

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    1. blair villanueva

      Being selfish is also self love. It is not wrong to be selfish for yourself and for your well-being. Stay happy and explore possibilities.

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  7. hi
    its imp to do what we feel like from within without anyu pressure. it can be simple things such as catch the waves of the sea, smell its brine and spend hours sighting sea stars.

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  8. Marjie Mare

    Beautifully written post. I definitely believe our happiness is our choice. Waiting for our circumstances to change will not bring happiness. We chose to be happy at the moment.

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  9. amayszingblogs

    Always choose yourself than anyone that’s what we called self-love awesome post! BTW I’m a fan of High school musical too

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  10. I’ve been in that situation a few times when I was younger, feeling ‘stuck’ and ‘drained’. I wanted to say that it’s normal – between the age of 21-25 we are still trying to get a hang of being an adult and wanting to accomplish (a lot) things. So that’s what I did… Busied myself with my then 9-5 and tried all sorts of activities that I thought were ‘cool’ – “FOMO.” Then it dawned on my that I wasn’t happy. First with my work, sure it was well-paying but I wasn’t ‘growing’ so I ventured somewhere else.

    Anyway, my point is… Sit back and think of things that you truly enjoy. Work to achieve it but you don’t need to rush. Work on your own pace and just enjoy.

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  11. My father, a psychologist, used to tell me that “No One Can Make You Feel a Certain Way…you always control your own feelings!” I found this to be very true in life as we often see two different people looking at the same situation and yet they both have different reactions based on what they choose to focus on! I hope you always choose Happy! It isnt always easy & misery does love company but if you work at it, then Happy you can be!

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  12. aisasami

    OMG, I also follow people’s standards because I thought the right way of living. But, there is no right way of living. You gotta just od your own thing.

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    1. What makes you happy? Bigla tuloy ako napaisip kung ano nga ba ang nakakapagpasaya sa akin. actually ilang araw na ako nag iisip ng kung anu ano tungkol sa life ko at andun yung feeling na di ako ok. reading something like this kahit papaano nakakatulong siya… gusto ko yung “Breathe. Feel alive. Choose happiness — it is free after all.”

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  13. I totally agree. There are days, where I just feel sad, struggling on what tomorrow might take me, if I’ll be able to surpass it. Then comes, self-doubt, whether I’ll be able to really accomplish the path that I chose. But I know God has a great plan for us. Sometimes, we just need to take a break from what is stressing us out. More importantly, we need to choose happiness, the ones that makes us feel alive ✨ We can do this!

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  14. Well, being vulnerable or so called weak is part of being human. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s something we should recognize and accept. No one’s perfect so don’t be afraid to show your weak side too 🙂

    I hope you’re doing well and better now! Don’t stop blogging about what you feel!

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  15. “The truth is I’m stuck that sometimes I feel like I’m losing the drive to play my game.”

    I often feel like this even before COVID. The thought of actually doing what I am good at, but I was losing the courage and inspiration to continuously do it. That I need to do or learn or see something new, unfamiliar to get me fueled and excited again.

    We have different ways to deal (positively) with these kinds of feelings, and it’s good that people are now speaking up about this instead of keeping it to themselves.

    I pray that you are doing and feeling better now. As I always say (even to myself), think happy thoughts!

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  16. “There is my passion but I’m lacking the drive towards it.” This me right now. At some point, I have lost the drive to do what I’m passionate about and it’s frustrating sometimes honestly. But I realized that we also have to deal with being halfhearted on something to ignite the fire within us again.

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  17. Nicole San Miguel

    Like you, I used to worry all the time about my current situation for the future but thankfully, I learned to pause and be grateful for what I have in the present. Now, I’m happier. I agree with what you said about choosing your own happiness than sacrificing it over the rolling waves.

    I’m hoping that you are feeling better now. Always put God in your heart, and you will be fulfilled.

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  18. The community quarantine has really limited or boxed us for months now, and that is indeed more agonizing for frequent travelers. There is a quite pinch in my heart whenever I received a series of flight cancellations, even though it is expected. I agree with you that we should strike a balance for our happiness and protecting ourselves against the virus. One way to combat looming depression is to regain that happiness.

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  19. I feel every inch of this post. When we are in the middle of things — chaotic or peaceful it be, we’d ask ourselves are we really happy? And that question is nothing new especially in this pandemic.

    But you are right– we are still bound by choices. And it’s up to us how to we find our happiness amid all the troubles. HUGS!!

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  20. Just a perfect time to read this, I feel anxious lately because the company I’ve been working just declared that we have to stop operating for now. Here I am stucked at home. This is a good read for me. Thanks for the motivation!

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  21. Agree! I think we should have always have a “me-time.” Meditate about ourselves, our journey and mission, aspiration and motivation so we can keep the fire burning to keep on going.

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  22. I can sense that you’re overwhelmed right now and that’s completely understandable. As much as we’d like to get away like to a happy place with our friends and forget about our problems, we can’t. The reality right now sucks and it’s really hard to be happy. Just don’t push yourself too much okay. You’ll figure it out. Kaya mo yan

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  23. Aww, This is so deep! But yeah, I can relate and I agree that above all else you must ensure that you are happy with what you are doing. Life will have sense that way than having full of regrets.

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  24. Dianne

    I’m not sure what exactly is it you are dealing with right now. But it’s okay to pause and take a break. It sounds that you are dealing it positively now which is admirable. You are fine and you are doing good. 🙂

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  25. jayneglezelle

    Happiness is indeed something that we definitely can achieve through contentment. Amazing how we try to find it but it’s just the thing of the mind.

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  26. Mikhaela

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’ve been also struggling with it and I’d realized, we ust need to breathe and live in the moment and that what it all matters to yourself.

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  27. That paragraph, starting with suddenly, sums up what I want to do. With all the news today, it feels like I absorbed all the sadness and negativity on social media. I just want to be away. So, thank you for this —- “Breathe. Feel alive. Choose happiness — it is free after all.”

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  28. Choose what makes you happy. Pero di ko sya magawa. Matagal ko nang gustong magstop sa work, I want to be a full time mom, pero hindi ko magawa because until now, umaasa pa sa akin mga magulang at kapatid ko. So parang I can’t really choose what I want to be or to do. Hirap lang.

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  29. What makes me happy is having my family around me safe and happy. As we grow through each stage of our life, how we see happiness and contentment evolves. In my case, it is no longer just what I want to do at the moment. 🙂

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  30. God gave us the wisdom to choose and make decisions for ourselves, happiness for me is a choice, you can have everything in life but still, feel empty inside because happiness is a subjective feeling We can’t really know exactly what makes us happy because it is something that cannot be seen but can be felt inside…

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  31. Janella Herrera

    “For once in your life, choose something that is not just right, but rightfully can make you happy instead.”

    One thing I love about your blog is whenever I came across the stories you tell, I read something that I never thought I needed to hear. Kaya for once in my life, I’ll reach out to my crush na! Hahahahahaha. Lovely post, Franze!

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